Tina Turner Had It Right

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Anyone in a stepmom position with their partner’s children is not required to love those kids. You didn’t date them, and you didn’t fall in love with them. You didn’t make your life plans based on your feelings for them. It’s almost like having to pick a fewContinue reading “Tina Turner Had It Right”

105 The Alienated Stepmom

Summary Want to learn how to get through to kids who are being brainwashed about you? Sign up for my FREE 3-part workshop October 27-29, 2021 called Reversing Parental Alienation. Go to bit.ly/alienationstrategy to register and don’t forget to join the private Facebook group just for this event! You can always reach me at info@essentialstepmom.com.Continue reading “105 The Alienated Stepmom”

You Can Stop Trying To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own

Let me be clear: I love my step kids very much. They add so much joy and light to my life I can’t imagine where I would be without them. However, I don’t love them as though they were my kids and I were their mother. I’m NOT their mother. Not only that, but IContinue reading “You Can Stop Trying To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own”

Peer Support Is Great, But Where Is Your Stepmom Advice Coming From?

Scrolling through my social media feed one day recently, one particular post caught my eye. It wasn’t in a stepmom group, but a regular parenting forum for women trying to learn how to parent in a kinder, gentler, more enlightened way than the way they might have been raised themselves. I think it’s awesome thatContinue reading “Peer Support Is Great, But Where Is Your Stepmom Advice Coming From?”

Is Meditation Too Woo-woo For You?

You can still increase your awareness and benefit your step-parenting journey without sitting cross-legged or closing your eyes. I’m a huge fan of meditation. It brought me to where I was ready to find a new partner 6 years after separating from my first husband. Strictly speaking, it allowed me to see him right inContinue reading “Is Meditation Too Woo-woo For You?”

5 Surprising Reasons It’s A Bad Idea To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own

Let me be clear: I love my step kids very much. They add much joy and light to my life and I can’t imagine where I’d be without them. However, I don’t love them like they’re my kids and I’m their mother. I’m NOT their mother. I actually have a daughter of my own whoContinue reading “5 Surprising Reasons It’s A Bad Idea To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own”

Start Thinking Smaller.

It’s not just the antidote to overwhelm, it’s the answer to most of your stepmom problems. There are only two reactions to overwhelm. You either become paralyzed or you spin your wheels. If you’re one of those people who find that being overwhelmed makes you more productive, it’s not really overwhelm, it’s more like challenge.Continue reading “Start Thinking Smaller.”