Here’s what I think: the only opinion that matters about whether or not you are a good stepmom is the child’s. He or she is the only one who gets to weigh in on that. Not your partner, or his ex, or his parents or anybody else who wants to judge what you are doing. Let meContinue reading “Can you be a good stepmom if you don’t like kids?”
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A Stepmom’s Letter to Santa
Dear Santa, Remember, a while back, I asked for someone to share a loving relationship with? At the time, it was the most important thing in the world to me. I thought if I could just have that one thing – a partner – my life would be perfect. Well, you came through, and ifContinue reading “A Stepmom’s Letter to Santa”
6 Ways To Be A Stepmother Who Is Not A Mom
My personal approach to the role of stepmother is to avoid behaving like a “mom”. There could be good reasons to do otherwise, but for most of us I think this is the best policy and here is why: I’m pretty sure that females of all species are hardwired to scratch out the eyeballs ofContinue reading “6 Ways To Be A Stepmother Who Is Not A Mom”
5 Surprising Reasons It’s A Bad Idea To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own
Let me be clear: I love my step kids very much. They add much joy and light to my life and I can’t imagine where I’d be without them. However, I don’t love them like they’re my kids and I’m their mother. I’m NOT their mother. I actually have a daughter of my own whoContinue reading “5 Surprising Reasons It’s A Bad Idea To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own”
2 Bedrooms, 2 Bosses. It Just Bites.
Imagine, if you will, that you work in an office where as part of the normal workflow you must work every other week at a different location. You pack up all your stuff – you might even need to put it in a large briefcase on wheels – and go to another desk in anotherContinue reading “2 Bedrooms, 2 Bosses. It Just Bites.”
We Should Think More About Things That Don’t Matter
Why is it so hard to keep our priorities straight? We think we’re focused on what matters, but in an instant, the universe can show us that we had it all wrong. We know what’s really important, but we insist on building other things up to be important as if we need to be surroundedContinue reading “We Should Think More About Things That Don’t Matter”
Yes, you can de-stress in just 2 minutes, and there’s no better time to learn how!
Suddenly, you find yourself being the teacher, babysitter, and all around domestic goddess of “pandemic-quarantine central”. No playdates, no playgrounds, no activities and no rest for you. You need to become a ninja of self-care! Your mental health is more important to how your kids get through this time (and how your marriage thrives throughContinue reading “Yes, you can de-stress in just 2 minutes, and there’s no better time to learn how!”
The Four-Minute Stepfamily
Roger Bannister, a mild-mannered medical student and middle distance runner was the first human being to run a mile in under 4 minutes. This milestone (pardon the pun) was a very, very big deal when it happened on May 6, 1954. Every serious runner in the world had been trying to do it for almostContinue reading “The Four-Minute Stepfamily”
Step-Parent S.O.S: Find Your Phone Buddy!
This might be the most important thing you read today. #Wouldn’t it be nice to talk to someone who understands what you are going through in your stepfamily day-to-day? It would be so great to feel like you’re not alone, like some of this cray-cray might actually be normal… There’s someone out there who feelsContinue reading “Step-Parent S.O.S: Find Your Phone Buddy!”
Start Thinking Smaller.
It’s not just the antidote to overwhelm, it’s the answer to most of your stepmom problems. There are only two reactions to overwhelm. You either become paralyzed or you spin your wheels. If you’re one of those people who find that being overwhelmed makes you more productive, it’s not really overwhelm, it’s more like challenge.Continue reading “Start Thinking Smaller.”
Essential Stepmom 