This is about getting to where you feel like you know what you’re doing, where things are starting to come more easily, where you feel relaxed and confident about step-parenting.

Remember how you felt when you learned to ride a bike? 

You probably started off with training wheels, or with someone holding the seat and running along beside you. And then, there was the incredible moment when you took off by yourself and you could do it.

What a feeling!

There’s nothing that boosts your confidence like knowing you can do something that seemed really hard only a few moments ago.

Any challenge worth entertaining deserves enough of the right kind of support to make success possible, and as my friend Christina Providence said in our live interview:

“It’s not your fault if you don’t have enough support, but it IS your responsibility.”

My advice to you about getting to where you know you’re a capable skilled, worthy stepmom is like pretty much all my advice – off the beaten path.

The road to I’ve Got This is the road less travelled. That’s actually a line from a poem by Robert Frost:

“TWO ROADS DIVERGED IN A WOOD AND I – I TOOK THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED BY AND THAT HAS MADE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.”

I can speak to the road less travelled because I’ve not only walked that road in my own stepfamily for 12 years but I’ve spent all my professional career on an alternative path. 

In my day job, I’m an alternative health care professional. I use what works, and I don’t care what anyone else thinks about that. My career rests on thinking outside the box, and my clients are happy because they get better. That’s the only metric I care about. 

So here are my 5 important but unconventional steps on your way to that joyful Fist Pump of Stepmom supremacy.

1. Be bold, don’t follow the crowd.

If you want to be like all the other stepmoms, you’ll likely end up in the ditch because that’s where most of them are headed.

If you didn’t already know that 70% of stepfamilies fail within 5 years, get that figure into your head right now. You don’t want to be joining a cascade of lemmings rushing headlong towards the abyss.

Know that not everyone will agree with the path you’re taking, and that’s OK. Talk to them again in 5 years.

2. Much of this path is walked backwards. 

Learn to back up.

It’s like dancing, or driving a car; backing up is an essential move. Steps that move you backwards or away from your dance partner are an integral part of every dance. If you drive, you have to be able to put the car in reverse to get out of your driveway – and you have to practice doing it. Backing up might feel scary at first, but you’ll get used to it and soon, it will feel natural and easy.

Stepping back is the natural antidote to overstepping and you’re going to do plenty of that. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about, but you have to learn to recognize when you’ve done it. Overstepping is the result of following your GPS (see step number 3).

3. Unplug your GPS. 

Your automatic (i.e., unconscious) inner guidance system is being powered by your maternal instinct and it’s sending you in the wrong direction.

Your maternal instinct wouldn’t fire up if you were trying to be a good teacher, or aunt, or fairy godmother, but as a stepmom, it will try to run the whole show.

Instead of allowing yourself to act maternal, try instead just to observe and understand and keep an open heart.  Then you can give what’s really wanted, which is the maximum connection with dad to fill up their tank. If you can do that, you will get to stand on the podium and receive the gold medal in step-parenting.

4. Shine a light.

You need to see where you’re going, and the best way to do that is to shine your own light by continuing to be connected with yourself and your creativity.

Don’t give up what makes your heart sing. Make time for your hobbies, your friends, your interests. Definitely make time for your relationship so you don’t forget why you set off down this path in the first place.

Be all of who you are, and remember that the best thing you can do for your stepfamily is to model the attitudes, values and relationships that you want to rub off on them.

Shine your light.

5. Log the landmarks along the way.

Make note of your wins. Pin them to your heart.

The road to “I’ve Got This!” is long, but the whole journey is actually a lifelong sort of thing, at least that’s the hope!

Hang onto those wins and cherish them. You can use them like a scythe or a hatchet to chop through the thicket when you step off the path and get lost in the bushes.

Seriously, write stuff down in a little book you can look at to remind yourself that you’ve passed enough signposts to know you’re going the right way.

Post your wins in our Facebook group so everyone can help you celebrate. It’s not silly, it’s how you deeply integrate those moments in your being so they form the foundation of your new self-image, the one where you feel accomplished, capable

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Remember the 3 Little Pigs? Of course you do. We all grew up learning why we should mock the one who decides to build his house out of straw, but let’s be honest, it’s totes the easiest, fastest way to put a roof over your head!

Then there’s the little guy who goes for a wooden house, and you know, it seems like a pretty good compromise. I mean, the wolf is coming, right? Who knows how long you have to actually make the walls and a door that locks. I’m probably a Little Pig Number Two at heart. Wood is decently strong, and you can always spray the exterior walls with stucco for that extra air of sturdiness. Every suburb is full of new homes made this way.

And of course, when the big bad wolf comes a-huffin’-an’-puffin’, the first two pigs hi-tail it to their friend who’s probably anal about everything he does. He chose the winning risk/benefit strategy and spent a lot of extra time, money and energy making an impervious house out of bricks, unlike his misguided friends. He saves their bacon, pardon the bad pun.

Why am I writing about a kids’ story? Well, after 3 years of working pretty much full-time with stepmoms and their families, I keep seeing the same pattern playing out over and over and I have a new perspective on what’s going on.

What I keep seeing is stepmom burn-out. Literally, these wives and girlfriends are becoming so exhausted and feeling so hopeless, they don’t know how much longer they can go on. What is it about blended family life that can suck a woman dry in mere months?

I believe that what’s really wearing them out is the effort of trying to hold up the walls of a house that’s made of anything but bricks. I’m knee-deep in this metaphor now, so I’ll stick with it. Walls made of straw or wood just aren’t strong enough to stand up against the hurricane of hi-conflict behaviours. The rain’s coming in and stepmom is running around trying to plug the holes with her bare hands. No wonder she’s burned out!

So, what decides which kind of house you get to live in?

I believe it’s parenting styles. Dad’s parenting style is what creates the structure of your family. Your parenting style isn’t really relevant – I don’t mean that it doesn’t matter how you relate to your step kids, but only dad’s parenting is creating structure.

You might have heard me refer to the 4 types of parenting styles – here’s how they apply to this problem:

Authoritarian parenting (“Because I said so!”) creates the wooden house. It looks pretty solid at first glance, and it’s quicker and easier to put up than a brick house, but the walls can be kicked out from the inside by kids who figure out that they can actually say no. They’re only learning to be afraid of dad, and at some point they realize that they have more power than they knew. They get old enough to either rebel and call his bluff or to just walk away.

Permissive parenting (“We’re buddies, your wish is my command!”) makes a straw house. Literally, the kids don’t even feel safe inside this house because there’s no Alpha dog. Nobody is the boss, there’s no leader.  It might be because dad doesn’t want to come on strong the way his own dad did. In some cases, Dad can’t hold up any boundaries in his own house because he’s afraid his kids won’t want to come over any more.

The Neglectful parent (“You’ll figure it out, you don’t need me for anything”) doesn’t provide a house at all, he just kind of throws his kids a big blue tarp and a piece of rope. He provides the most rudimentary kind of shelter – better than sleeping out in the rain, but not by much.

The brick house is only built by Authoritative parenting, the kind where dad is warm and loving but also shows up as a leader in his family. He says “You’re safe, you’re loved and I see you. And because I love you, I won’t let you get away with that shit.” Even if it’s not  easy, he’s able to make the limits they need and hold them effectively. He understands how difficult it is for his kids to have parents living in different homes who may not agree on how to raise them, but he takes a long view and consistently looks for ways to make the impact he wants to have in their lives.

When the bio parent is authoritative, the stepmom is not left holding the parenting bag. She’s not constantly overstepping because there’s no gaping parenting hole to fill. She’s not being blindsided by expectations that she didn’t know about or sign up for. She can instinctively feel that dad has it under control and she can trust him to pick his own battles, giving him space to try and fail and try again in the process of learning how to raise his kids in this complex family dynamic.

How do you get to be an authoritative parent if it doesn’t come naturally to you? The first step is to recognize your own parenting style and then give yourself a pat on the back. Parenting is some hard shit, even for dads who aren’t divorced.  You’re doing the best with the tools you have.

Next, get out there and get some more tools! You don’t have to make big changes all at once, but little steps in the right direction will become the little bricks that make your house immune to every kind of challenge.

If your family is dealing with exceptional challenges like parental alienation, I have a resource that could get you started repairing your parent-child relationships so that you can make the impact you desire. Grab it here:

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Hey, dads – listen up.

One of the most common conflicts I hear in second marriages with kids goes like this:

“My husband/boyfriend wants me to be a ‘mother figure’ for his kids. I keep reading that it’s not the right approach but he doesn’t understand and I whenever I try to talk to him about it I feel like a heel.”

Yes, this is the little stepfamily puddle that has a way of turning into a sinkhole right before it swallows your house, man-cave and white picket fence.

Let me just say that I know this dynamic might work for some folks, but in most cases, a stepmom will work her butt off and it’ll never be enough. Wanna know why?

Because your kids already have a mother, and even if she doesn’t do any of the things a mother is supposed to do, most kids would say that the position is filled.

Here’s why:

1. Your kids don’t want another mother

A child with two ‘mothers’ can get stuck at some point in a ‘loyalty bind’ – they want to be able to like your new partner, and maybe even love her, but there’s only room for one mother in their heart. When they have to kick her out of the nest, they get stabbed with a guilty feeling and then they want to punish themselves.

You know what it looks like when a child wants to punish themselves? Yes, Bobbi, you do. Now you know what ‘that’ was all about!

     2. It’s not good for ‘stepmom’ (or whatever you call her – I’ve always hated that word myself!)

She’s going to be activated in her ‘maternal instinct’, which has a way of making a woman run herself ragged to prove that she’s good enough in this like-a-mother role and there’s no way to win this. She’ll never get the affirmation she needs to make it all feel worthwhile. They won’t appreciate her efforts, and you’ll start to slide into expecting her to just do all those motherly things by default. This leads to resentment, and the statistics tell the story after that: 60-70% of second marriages with kids end in divorce. No wonder!

    3. It’s not good for you, dad.

Parenting after divorce is hard a/f.

Hey, it’s hard enough for most people before divorce!

Nobody wants to use up their precious visiting time throwing red cards or sending kids to their room, but I have some bad news for you. There’s no room in a stepfamily to run the trusty “good cop/bad cop” play. You’re gonna have to learn to be both cops, all the time.

And if she starts parenting like you think you want her to, she’s going to start to notice all the things you do differently than she thinks they oughta be done, and she’s going to start complaining about stuff that’s actually none of her business. If you’re gonna make it her business by asking her to be a mother to your kids, you’ll probably be sorry!

You need to figure out how to stand in your boots as a parent and that’s going to take some practice. Yes, you’re gonna fail at it from time to time and it’s my job to remind her to resist the urge to rub your nose in it. These are your kids and that means you get to mess up, and figure it out, and try again as much as you want. 

………………

Now when it comes to learning new tricks, you might need help getting pointed in the right direction. That might include pointing yourself in my direction, because I teach that stuff to the dad who needs help figuring out what’s gonna work for you now that bio-mom is undoing all your parenting faster than she can cash a support cheque!

Join my group over at  One For The Dads  where I answer guys’ parenting questions and share some suggestions. This week I did a livestream video for the dads about how to create a culture of respect in your home, or even between homes. If you’d like to see that video, just reply to this email and I’ll be glad to send you the link!

I also offer coaching for those dads who don’t do social media but still have a strong feeling about how they want their kids to turn out and wish they knew how to make that happen in the 50/50 lifestyle!

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What I keep seeing is stepmom burn-out. Literally, these wives and girlfriends are becoming so exhausted and feeling so hopeless, they don’t know how much longer they can go on. What is it about blended family life that can suck a woman dry in mere months?

Tracy Poizner

Remember the 3 Little Pigs? Of course you do. We all grew up learning why we should mock the one who decides to build his house out of straw, but let’s be honest, it’s totes the easiest, fastest way to put a roof over your head!

Then there’s the little guy who goes for a wooden house, and you know, it seems like a pretty good compromise. I mean, the wolf is coming, right? Who knows how long you have to actually make the walls and a door that locks. I’m probably a Little Pig Number Two at heart. Wood is decently strong, and you can always spray the exterior walls with stucco for that extra air of sturdiness. Every suburb is full of new homes made this way.

And of course, when the big bad wolf comes a-huffin’-an’-puffin’, the first two pigs hi-tail it to their friend who’s probably anal about everything he does. He chose the winning risk/benefit strategy and spent a lot of extra time, money and energy making an impervious house out of bricks, unlike his misguided friends. He saves their bacon, pardon the bad pun.

Why am I writing about a kids’ story? Well, after 3 years of working pretty much full-time with stepmoms and their families, I keep seeing the same pattern playing out over and over and I have a new perspective on what’s going on.

What I keep seeing is stepmom burn-out. Literally, these wives and girlfriends are becoming so exhausted and feeling so hopeless, they don’t know how much longer they can go on. What is it about blended family life that can suck a woman dry in mere months?

I believe that what’s really wearing them out is the effort of trying to hold up the walls of a house that’s made of anything but bricks. I’m knee-deep in this metaphor now, so I’ll stick with it. Walls made of straw or wood just aren’t strong enough to stand up against the hurricane of hi-conflict behaviours. The rain’s coming in and stepmom is running around trying to plug the holes with her bare hands. No wonder she’s burned out!

So, what decides which kind of house you get to live in?

I believe it’s parenting styles. Dad’s parenting style is what creates the structure of your family. Your parenting style isn’t really relevant – I don’t mean that it doesn’t matter how you relate to your step kids, but only dad’s parenting is creating structure.

You might have heard me refer to the 4 types of parenting styles – here’s how they apply to this problem:

Authoritarian parenting (“Because I said so!”) creates the wooden house. It looks pretty solid at first glance, and it’s quicker and easier to put up than a brick house, but the walls can be kicked out from the inside by kids who figure out that they can actually say no. They’re only learning to be afraid of dad, and at some point they realize that they have more power than they knew. They get old enough to either rebel and call his bluff or to just walk away.

Permissive parenting (“We’re buddies, your wish is my command!”) makes a straw house. Literally, the kids don’t even feel safe inside this house because there’s no Alpha dog. Nobody is the boss, there’s no leader.  It might be because dad doesn’t want to come on strong the way his own dad did. In some cases, Dad can’t hold up any boundaries in his own house because he’s afraid his kids won’t want to come over any more.

The Neglectful parent (“You’ll figure it out, you don’t need me for anything”) doesn’t provide a house at all, he just kind of throws his kids a big blue tarp and a piece of rope. He provides the most rudimentary kind of shelter – better than sleeping out in the rain, but not by much.

The brick house is only built by Authoritative parenting, the kind where dad is warm and loving but also shows up as a leader in his family. He says “You’re safe, you’re loved and I see you. And because I love you, I won’t let you get away with that shit.” Even if it’s not  easy, he’s able to make the limits they need and hold them effectively. He understands how difficult it is for his kids to have parents living in different homes who may not agree on how to raise them, but he takes a long view and consistently looks for ways to make the impact he wants to have in their lives.

When the bio parent is authoritative, the stepmom is not left holding the parenting bag. She’s not constantly overstepping because there’s no gaping parenting hole to fill. She’s not being blindsided by expectations that she didn’t know about or sign up for. She can instinctively feel that dad has it under control and she can trust him to pick his own battles, giving him space to try and fail and try again in the process of learning how to raise his kids in this complex family dynamic.

How do you get to be an authoritative parent if it doesn’t come naturally to you? The first step is to recognize your own parenting style and then give yourself a pat on the back. Parenting is some hard shit, even for dads who aren’t divorced.  You’re doing the best with the tools you have.

Next, get out there and get some more tools! You don’t have to make big changes all at once, but little steps in the right direction will become the little bricks that make your house immune to every kind of challenge.

If your family is dealing with exceptional challenges like parental alienation, I have a resource that could get you started repairing your parent-child relationships so that you can make the impact you desire. Grab it here:

RESTORATIVE PARENTING QUICKSTART GUIDE

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What if your step kids’ mother is deceased, or completely out of the picture for reasons such as mental illness, heavy drug use or prison? What do you have to do differently as a stepmom?

My opinion is that it’s more important to underline what you should be doing that’s just the same as in other stepfamilies.

The absence of the biological mother is probably not affecting the family difficulty on the level of parenting (in the sense of dealing with bad behaviour from the kids), and it’s not likely producing a unique conflict in the marriage. It’s a problem of family dynamics.

What is the best role for a stepmom in such a family? Where does she fit in the overall family scheme? How does she manage boundaries or step back from her involvement with the step kids when they have no mother besides her? When you’re the full-time, live-in mother figure in the home, should you even contemplate stepping back?

My take on this is that you don’t automatically take on a bigger burden of responsibility for kids who don’t have a mother when you get together with their dad. It’s true that your partner might have a heavier job in parenting children who are literally grieving the loss of a parent, but it’s not your job to adjust your role. I think that the best thing you can do for the family dynamic is to find ways to respect the “family of origin”. That’s where you do your stepping back.

The energy of that original family is still intact, just the way it would be if mom were alive or more present in the child’s life. You might have heard me say that it’s important to respect the “family” that your partner has with his children, the one they had together before you came into the picture. The more you respect that family and make space for it, the more they can relax into the new “family” that you and their dad are creating for them.

You shouldn’t ever think of yourself as “fitting in” to their family because that risks activating a Loyalty Bind in a child. They need to keep a place in their heart just for mom, and that’s just as true when she’s in prison, or in heaven. They can eventually feel good about becoming part of your family because we have a long historical tradition of joining a new family when we marry. We can allow ourselves to be a part of two families without loyalty issues and kids can feel good about having two families if you play your cards right.

I believe that it’s both correct and healthy for every stepfamily to have some time where dad and kids do things alone together, without the stepmom. I think that all stepfamilies should make this kind of “family time” a priority – I still do this for my own step kids even though they’re in their 20’s now and we’ve been a family for 14 years.

Families who make time for this find that it pays off big time in better moods and cooperation and even leads to a closer relationship with the stepmom over time. You might have to force yourself to create a space for them to enjoy each other’s company without you. If you’re sensitive to feeling left out, it might challenge you to do some self-growth but it will be a precious gift that they’ll treasure much more than any material objects you might offer.

If there were something else in the personal development sphere to work on here, it would for the stepmom to cultivate a sense of ease around talking with the kids about their mom. It’s OK to say that you wish you could have known her, or that you wish she could see them right now, or that it must be really hard to miss your mom. We have to get past the awkward fear of letting her into the room, energetically speaking.

What all kids really need is a place where it’s safe to love both their mom and dad at the same time. They need a place where it’s safe to be sad, so learn how to hold space for their feelings without being overwhelmed by them. If you can do that, you become an important part of their safety network and that’s a perfect foundation for a long-lasting relationship.

There should never be a moment in a child’s life when they’re expected to have completely gotten over the loss of a parent. It will come up again and again and different phases of development and at various life milestones. Graduations, awards, achievements, marriage and children will stir up grief in unexpected ways. Your ability to make that be OK for them can be the single most important role you have in their lives.

All the rest is the same: let dad do the heavy lifting (discipline) and be sensitive to the idea that a Loyalty Bind exists just as much with a deceased mother as with a living one. Remember that if they like you one day and not the next, it’s probably not about you and it comes with the territory. Make time to talk to your spouse on a regular basis about your expectations of each other and the kids. Consider using family meetings as a vehicle for reducing anxiety in the home and reaching consensus on difficult topics.

It’s really not that different – hope this helps!

Yes, you deserve a posse of girls to stand around you, just like in this image: women who have your back, who give you courage and cheer you on in your toughest times. You might think everyone has a tribe except for you, but most of us create one for ourselves. Let’s talk about how creating one for yourself is going to look.

Back when I was married the first time – well, near the end of when I was married the first time, I was struggling to figure out how to take my life back and separate myself from the father of my child. Getting divorced was something so totally outside my universe, I had no idea where to begin. I had no models – my parents were happily married, as were pretty much all my relatives and the parents of my friends. True to my personality, I was stubbornly determined to do it all on my own.

I didn’t know the first thing about the emotional train-wreck I had become. I didn’t recognize myself, but still I soldiered on according to my philosophy of coping: suck it up or figure it out.

And then one day I literally collapsed onto the ground and dug my hands into the soil near a small tree in my garden, begging the universe to help me out.  I would surrender control, if the universe would just pick up the slack. And my dream team – my tribe – soon materialized.

I say it materialized, but it didn’t happen all by itself.  I had to say out loud: “I don’t know what to do. I can’t do this by myself”.  That was the hardest part, actually. Once I realized I needed a tribe, I could see who I needed to be on it and look for them.

I had friends who were just waiting to help me, as it turned out. I thought they were going to be disappointed in me because I was giving up on my marriage, or because I was outing myself as weak, a phony, a poser – what was that all about? They were literally lined up to help me, they just didn’t know how until I reached out and asked.

First I found a meditation teacher, who offered to teach me at no charge. I found a therapist. One of my friends recommended her divorce mediator – of course I had friends who had gone through this, I just couldn’t connect the dots while I was in “don’t ask don’t tell” mode. 

My parents had a good lady lawyer in their wide circle of acquaintance. My daughter’s friends’ moms and dads helped out with rides and overnights. My neighbours sold me their awesome used car at a great price. (I drove that car for 10 years, by the way). The bank manager who took care of the car loan offered to consolidate all my debt into a new mortgage. A friend taught me to do body sugaring so I could work for her part time and make extra money. I rented a room in my house to a total stranger who turned into a real friend that did free home renovations for me. 

The list goes on and on.

I promise you that you have people in your life who will be part of your dream team if you ask them. Here’s where to look:

1. What do you need help with that you could put out to the universe?

☐ Parenting tips

☐ Babysitting help

☐ Marriage advice

☐ Self confidence

☐ Legal advice

☐ Living space

☐ Scheduling

☐ Organizing or tidying or simplifying

☐ Saving money, or spending better

2. Who do you know already that might help if you asked them?

☐ Your family – parents, siblings, aunts/uncles, grandparents, nieces or nephews

☐ Your partner’s family – your in-laws

☐ Friends

☐ Work colleagues

☐ Neighbours

☐ Parents of the kids’ friends

3.Who could you meet, or get to know better?

☐ Friends of friends

☐ Do you go to the gym, to a group class, to a book club?

☐ Try out a new faith community?

☐ Community centre 

☐ Referrals from friends or family for professionals

☐ Online connections – like online dating, just contact someone and try it out!

☐ Is there a local stepmom group? Can you start one?

4. Finding professionals:

☐ Legal help – find inexpensive unlimited phone advice here: wearelegalshield.com 

☐ Pastoral counselling, local mental health services

☐ Personal trainer, life coach, stepmom mentor

☐ Check out podcasts in whatever interests you – great advice cheap

☐ Group coaching from experts is a cheap way to get help – Nacho kids, susan stiffelman

5. Self-care

☐ Who do you know that meditates? 

☐ Who might join you to walk, jog, bike, do yoga?

☐ What do you love to do? Anything creative? Who would join you in doing that?

☐ Could you share meals with someone? Make stuff to freeze together?

☐ Do you schedule time to be with friends? Book it in, now!

I have some news for you. You don’t have to look far for tribe. Someone has already looked around for them, vetted than and put them on a silver platter for you. Kristen Skiles who blogs at  stepmomming.com . has assembled her own dream team of stepmom supporters, people who have successfully passed her personal bullshit meter for stepmom advice, and I’m super glad to be counted among them! We all agreed to provide a resource for her to include in a bundle of stuff she sells in a flash sale for a few days each year. She calls it The Successful Stepmom’s Toolbelt, but it might as well be called Every Stepmom’s Dream Team.

• I’m there with a course about learning how to do better at discipline for your step kids. 
• Kristen is there herself with a checklist for preparing a custody order or parenting plan, and a 50-page binder of everything you need to get your house de-cluttered and calmly organized. 
• Naja Hall is there with you in her VIP stepmom group for 3 months – if you don’t know her, you have to check her out, this membership program is incredible and you get 3 months free! 
• Erin Careless is there to provide an hour of one on one coaching, not now, but right when you need it. 
• Laura Petherbridge, the Smart Stepmom is there with her guide to starting your own stepmom support group ! 
• Ali Wilks of  stepcoupling.com  is there to help you work on your marriage, and Michael and lynne Pompeo are there to teach you their secrets to better co-parenting with the bio-mom. 

I’m not even half-way through, folks…

THIS is your tribe. We are your stepmom dream-team. 

We’re just waiting for you to ask, and we’ll stick around until you do. You basically have us all in your pocket forever!

This is so worth the $99 bucks, I can’t even begin. You can save this much by skipping your next eyelash fill or cutting back on Starbucks. You can save this in one month on your groceries with the book Dinner for a Dollar that we talked about on a live last year some time – guaranteed. Find a way to give yourself this resource and use it. 

Here’s the link, and it’s ONLY available on this FLASH SALE until midnight, Sunday October 13th so you don’t have time to talk yourself out of getting all the help you need to absolutely rock your stepmom world.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE and to get this package before it disappears!