ESP 2.17 Stop the “Stepmom Spiral”: 3 ways to conquer the habit pattern of negative thinking.

Summary

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I love to hear from you – really, it just makes my day every time. You can find me at my personal email, info@essentialstepmom.com.

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ESP 2.16: Who pays for what, and how is that working out for you?

Summary

Do you and your spouse ever argue about money? Does it drive you crazy that he spends too much on his kids, or that his ex is making poor choices with the child care payments coming out of your joint bank account?

My guest Tamasin Thomas is a certified financial planner AND a certified therapist. She’s also the host of a wonderful podcast called The Psychology of Money that you can find wherever you’re listening to this podcast or by clicking the link above.

Her website is tamasinthomas.com and you can grab a free resource there called 3 Steps to Resolving Financial Conflict to help couples get through their tough money conversations. 

Connect with me any time – I love to hear from you! Drop me a line at my personal and private email address, info@essentialstepmom.com or book a free 20-minute strategy session with me here:

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ESP 2.15: For those days when you think you just suck at this.

Summary

Everyone has days like this, I know I have had my share. Days when you think you just suck at being a stepmom and everything that’s going wrong is your fault. I made a live video last year for my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and I decided to share it with you here.

If you’d like to know more about Vipassana meditation, and how you can sign up to do a 10-day course like the one I’m at now, here’s the link:

http://www.dhamma.org  Click on wherever you are in the world to go to the website for a centre near you. 

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ESP. 2.14 Dads, Kids and Consequences (and the 4-minute mile)

Summary

There’s a lesson we can all learn from the story of how Roger Bannister became the first human to run a mile in under 4 minutes, and especially from what happened next!

The world is changing, family structures are changing and we need to change in order to keep to keep the orders of relationship inside our families intact. Here’s a little piece of unconventional advice on that topic.

Looking for a supportive community of like-minded stepmoms? Check out my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom

Could your spouse use a place online to connect with other dads who get what his life looks like? Send him to One For The Dads

The other websites I mentioned briefly are:

Ross Greene (The Explosive Child) http://livesinthebalance.org

Patty Wipfler, Hand In Hand Parenting http://handinhandparenting.org

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ESP 2.13 Dealing with Alienated Teens

Summary

This is from a live video I made for my Facebook group called One For The Dads. If you’d like to join (and you’re a biological dad) send a join request!

If you’re a stepmom and you’re looking for a social media community, join us at The Spectacular Stepmom

I’d love to hear from you! Reach out any time to my personal and private email account at info@essentialstepmom.com

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ESP 2.12 Riffing on Brene Brown’s “Dare To Lead”

Summary

If you don’t know Brene Brown, just google her TED talk on vulnerability – it’s had over 30 million views. She’s the author of a number of fabulous books, but the one I’m working on right now is called Dare to Lead. I dare you to read it and not see every word of it as advice for you as the leader of your family project!

You can listen to this book on Audible, and they’ll give you a free month to try it out with no obligation. Audible.com. I encourage you to visit her website, brenebrown.com

My Facebook group is called The Spectacular Stepmom and we’d be glad to see you there. Just send a join request.

Please feel free to reach out anytime – my private and confidential email address is info@essentialstepmom.com

You can also book a 20-minute chat at no cost with this link: tracypoizner.bookafy.com

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ESP. 2.11 My Christmas Miracle + REPLAY: OVERSTEPPING

Summary

Happy New Year to you, wherever in the world you’re listening from. I am partway through a holiday experience unlike anything I’ve had in 13 years of blended family life. It took us a long time to get here, but that only makes me appreciate it more! If I can give you one single piece of advice, it would be about overstepping.

In my opinion, that’s  the number one challenge in stepmom world, so I’m replaying the very first episode of this podcast for those of you who never heard it, and as a reminder for those of you who listened way back in June when it first came out.

I”d love to hear from you! Drop me a line to my personal and private email account, info@essentialstepmom.com and if you’re not already a member, send a join request to my closed Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and be part of that support community!

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