ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast

Summary Sorry for my podcast fail this week, but join me reading Amanda Ripley’s High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Here’s a link to order from Barnes and Noble: If you’re ready to address your deepest stepmom anxieties, or get to work on overcoming that post-divorce “parenting paralysis” thatContinue reading “ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast”

ESP 9.2 Q: “How do I merge the best parts of myself with my stepmom role?”

Summary This is an audio recording of a livestream on this topic from my Spectacular Stepmom facebook group. Not a member? Send a join request to THE SPECTACULAR STEPMOM Interested in booking a free coaching call with me? Go to — Send in a voice message: Transcription

ESP 8.4 How to find the sweet spot of stepparenting!

The show I watched and adored is called Undone. You can find it on Amazon Prime. I’d love to hear from you! Email me at I’ll be live on my public Facebook page, @essentialstepmom from March 22-26 with 5 days of tips for staying in contact with kids who you can’t access. I’d loveContinue reading “ESP 8.4 How to find the sweet spot of stepparenting!”

ESP 8.3 Carly Israel says “Thanks, but no thanks!”

Summary You can find Carly at and her podcast is called In Your Corner Divorce. Her book, Seconds and Inches is available at Barnes and Noble, Amazon and Find more information about the Nacho Kids Academy at That’s the link that will let them know I sent you, so they can sponsorContinue reading “ESP 8.3 Carly Israel says “Thanks, but no thanks!””

ESP 8.2 Nurture Burnout with Anne Cullen

Nurture burnout can happen to anyone who cares a lot about the people they live with, or work with or share the planet with. It’s especially common in stepmoms, so if you ever feeling like you’re teetering on the edge of burnout, this episode is for you! I have something else for you – myContinue reading “ESP 8.2 Nurture Burnout with Anne Cullen”

ESP 8.1 The teenage stepdaughter with Mary T. Kelly

Mary Kelly is probably the most experienced therapist in America for stepfamilies and their kids with over 18 years of experience dealing with this family dynamic. She’s a regular contributor to Stepmom Magazine, HuffPost and other publications. Find her at Her Facebook page is Real Stepfamilies, Real Solutions and she’s on Instagram @realstepmoms. EmailContinue reading “ESP 8.1 The teenage stepdaughter with Mary T. Kelly”

You Can Stop Trying To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own

Let me be clear: I love my step kids very much. They add so much joy and light to my life I can’t imagine where I would be without them. However, I don’t love them as though they were my kids and I were their mother. I’m NOT their mother. Not only that, but IContinue reading “You Can Stop Trying To Love Your Stepkids As Your Own”

The Road To “I’ve Got This!”

This is about getting to where you feel like you know what you’re doing, where things are starting to come more easily, where you feel relaxed and confident about step-parenting. Remember how you felt when you learned to ride a bike?  You probably started off with training wheels, or with someone holding the seat andContinue reading “The Road To “I’ve Got This!””

Burning out, stepmom? Come over to my house.

Remember the 3 Little Pigs? Of course you do. We all grew up learning why we should mock the one who decides to build his house out of straw, but let’s be honest, it’s totes the easiest, fastest way to put a roof over your head! Then there’s the little guy who goes for aContinue reading “Burning out, stepmom? Come over to my house.”

A Walk For All Reasons

Part One If you don’t already love to walk, I think that you should learn to love it. Going for a walk outside together, whether in the city or the countryside, is a wonderful bonding activity and will help you have a positive impact on a child in your life. Most kids today are wayContinue reading “A Walk For All Reasons”