3 Ways To Help Your Spouse Follow Through With His Kids

There’s a refrain I hear pretty often in comments from stepmoms in my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom. Their partner has agreed to do something, usually around discipline, rules, schedules or schoolwork, but somehow he never follows through and nothing changes. When this happens, it’s easy to get emotional because it feels like you’re being ignoredContinue reading “3 Ways To Help Your Spouse Follow Through With His Kids”

ESP 2.21: Five Kinds of Stepmom Who DON’T Need to “NACHO”!

Summary Lori Wilkins Sims is my guest today. She’s the originator of the Nacho Kids method. I challenged her to come up with some situations where it’s not necessary to disengage from some aspects of raising your stepkids, and we had a lively conversation – some of it serious and some tongue in cheek. I challengedContinue reading “ESP 2.21: Five Kinds of Stepmom Who DON’T Need to “NACHO”!”

ESP 2.20 More with Tamasin Thomas on stopping those Matrimonial Money Fights!

Summary Part 2 of a 3-part series with Tamasin Thomas, therapist and financial expert.  Grab her free e-book, 3 Steps to Resolving Financial Conflict from her website at tamasinthomas.com My book of Boredom Busters is also available at no cost during this challenging time – find it at essentialstepmom.com With all the “social distancing”, I’mContinue reading “ESP 2.20 More with Tamasin Thomas on stopping those Matrimonial Money Fights!”

The cure for picky eating [and BONUS: The cure for ANGST over picky eating!].

Summary CLICK BELOW to join my 4 day livestream video challenge from Monday March 9 to Thursday March 12, 2020. You can watch live, on replay or listen in audio only mode and download the tips and recipes too! bit.ly/stepmomtricks The book I mentioned is The Collapse of Parenting by Leonard Sax. Please come onContinue reading “The cure for picky eating [and BONUS: The cure for ANGST over picky eating!].”

Confessions of a people-pleasing stepmom [and the 3 stages of a recovery-in-progress]

Summary What can I say? It’s true, I’m a work in progress. Brene Brown’s audio-book The Power of Vulnerability is available from her website, http://www.brenebrown.com Visit my website at http://www.essentialstepmom.com Join the Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom We have a group for your spouse called One For The Dads too! Got my free guide yet?Continue reading “Confessions of a people-pleasing stepmom [and the 3 stages of a recovery-in-progress]”

ESP 2.17 Stop the “Stepmom Spiral”: 3 ways to conquer the habit pattern of negative thinking.

Summary Want my free gratitude journal template? Grab it here: bit.ly/123gratitude I love to hear from you – really, it just makes my day every time. You can find me at my personal email, info@essentialstepmom.com. If you’d like to chat, I encourage you to book a free 20-minute strategy session: BOOK A CALL WITH TRACYContinue reading “ESP 2.17 Stop the “Stepmom Spiral”: 3 ways to conquer the habit pattern of negative thinking.”

ESP 2.16: Who pays for what, and how is that working out for you?

Summary Do you and your spouse ever argue about money? Does it drive you crazy that he spends too much on his kids, or that his ex is making poor choices with the child care payments coming out of your joint bank account? My guest Tamasin Thomas is a certified financial planner AND a certifiedContinue reading “ESP 2.16: Who pays for what, and how is that working out for you?”

ESP 2.15: For those days when you think you just suck at this.

Summary Everyone has days like this, I know I have had my share. Days when you think you just suck at being a stepmom and everything that’s going wrong is your fault. I made a live video last year for my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and I decided to share it with you here.Continue reading “ESP 2.15: For those days when you think you just suck at this.”

ESP. 2.14 Dads, Kids and Consequences (and the 4-minute mile)

Summary There’s a lesson we can all learn from the story of how Roger Bannister became the first human to run a mile in under 4 minutes, and especially from what happened next! The world is changing, family structures are changing and we need to change in order to keep to keep the orders ofContinue reading “ESP. 2.14 Dads, Kids and Consequences (and the 4-minute mile)”