ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast


Sorry for my podcast fail this week, but join me reading Amanda Ripley’s High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Here’s a link to order from Barnes and Noble:

If you’re ready to address your deepest stepmom anxieties, or get to work on overcoming that post-divorce “parenting paralysis” that seems to strike even the most professionally successful dad, give me a shout about working together 1:1. You can book a free call with me at

Here are the episodes I suggested from our archives:

9.1 Expectations vs Agreements

8.1 The Teenage stepdaughter with Mary Kelly

7.5, 7.6 Up-leveling as a dad with Rich Bolus of The Dad Mindset podcast

6.5, 6.6 Trystan Reese author of How We Do Family

5.5  Kate Anthony – first wife forever syndrome

4.4 Me: How do you bond with a kid who wants nothing to do with you

3.10 Me: Evil Stepmom archetype

3.6 Me: Unbrainwashing your alienated child

2.9 Me: Disengaging for Beginners

1.1 Me: Overstepping — Send in a voice message:


ESP 9.2 Q: “How do I merge the best parts of myself with my stepmom role?”


This is an audio recording of a livestream on this topic from my Spectacular Stepmom facebook group. Not a member? Send a join request to THE SPECTACULAR STEPMOM

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ESP 8.5 Jonnie Jensen: dad, stepdad, superdad


Please go check out Team Super Dad and get more Jonnie Jensen. I feel very much aligned with his mission and how he goes about empowering dads to make all the impact they want to have on their kids while having a great work-life balance and even a great bank balance!

Want to try my new “Day Of Voxer” coaching offer? It’s the newest thing! Go get Voxer from the App Store, and we can set up a day to work together – on and off- for the whole day! Shoot me an email at — Send in a voice message:


ESP 8.4 How to find the sweet spot of stepparenting!

The show I watched and adored is called Undone. You can find it on Amazon Prime.

I’d love to hear from you! Email me at

I’ll be live on my public Facebook page, @essentialstepmom from March 22-26 with 5 days of tips for staying in contact with kids who you can’t access. I’d love to see you there!

If you’d love one to one help but can’t imagine carving out an hour of privacy in your hectic schedule, I’m now offering a Day of Voxer alternative! Let’s hang out together for a whole day and chat over this private voice message service. No pressure, pop on and off as you have the time and attention. If that sounds interesting, email me to learn more!

ESP 8.3 Carly Israel says “Thanks, but no thanks!”


You can find Carly at and her podcast is called In Your Corner Divorce.

Her book, Seconds and Inches is available at Barnes and Noble, Amazon and

Find more information about the Nacho Kids Academy at That’s the link that will let them know I sent you, so they can sponsor my work here at The Essential Stepmom too!

You can always reach out to me with your questions or comments at I’d be very glad to hear from your partner, too.

My Undeletable Dad program might be just the thing to get him back up onto that pedestal of fatherhood where he belongs!

Book a phone call, no strings attached, and let’s see if we’re a good fit! — Send in a voice message:

ESP 8.2 Nurture Burnout with Anne Cullen

Nurture burnout can happen to anyone who cares a lot about the people they live with, or work with or share the planet with. It’s especially common in stepmoms, so if you ever feeling like you’re teetering on the edge of burnout, this episode is for you! I have something else for you – my Healing Stepmom Burnout Quickstart Guide. It’s free – grab it here: You can always reach me at Book a free call – no strings attached – and learn more about my Undeletable Dad system and whether it’s right for you! Go to

ESP 8.1 The teenage stepdaughter with Mary T. Kelly

Mary Kelly is probably the most experienced therapist in America for stepfamilies and their kids with over 18 years of experience dealing with this family dynamic. She’s a regular contributor to Stepmom Magazine, HuffPost and other publications. Find her at Her Facebook page is Real Stepfamilies, Real Solutions and she’s on Instagram @realstepmoms. Email me at and say “Add me to your email list!” for my weekly messages. Book a free call, no strings attached to ask about coaching or to learn about Undeletable Dad:

ESP 7.8 How to Raise a Boy – with author Michael C. Reichert


There’s a lot of talk about helping girls to take their power and shed limiting stereotypes, but our boys suffer from limits too. How can we stop our unconscious role-typing of boys and girls? Don’t we want boys to become compassionate, sensitive, heart-centered husbands and dads?

Michael C Reichert can be found at and his book How To Raise A Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men is available from Amazon and Barnes and Noble

Join my mailing list by sending me an email message at I’d love to connect with you!

Book a free call to learn about my 1:1 coaching program for dads who want to help their kids over parental alienation and get on with being a regular father again.

If you’re a social media kind of person, join my closed Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom and meet some really nice women you can relate to!

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ESP 7.7 The Addicted Child – with author Richard Capriola


Richard Capriola has been a mental health and addictions counselor for over two decades. He’s been licensed in Illinois and Texas and recently retired from Menninger Clinic in Houston where he worked as an addictions counselor for adolescents and adults diagnosed with psychiatric and substance abuse disorders. He is the author of the book “The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse”.

You can find all the information you need at his website:

Send your questions on the topic of kids and substance abuse and Richard will address them on a future episode! You can send them to me at and I’ll forward them to him.

Reach out for help with your parent-child relationships and build the kind of connection that will help immunize your child against falling into the substance trap. Let’s talk about retrieving your damaged family dynamic and putting you back up on the dad pedestal where you belong! Book a free, private, no-obligation phone call by visiting

If you’re a stepmom, I’m always glad to chat with you, too! Hit the same link and let’s get acquainted!

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ESP 7.6 Rich Bolus part 2 “Am I robbing them of these experiences?”


Send your partner over to listen to some episodes of The Dad Mindset Podcast with Rich Bolus at TheDadMindset.comĀ 

Book a call and let’s talk about whether coaching is the right kind of support for you –

I have a free parenting guide for dads who need to make a stronger connection with their kids in a post-divorce family. Grab my RESTORATIVE PARENTING QUICKSTART GUIDE here: I love hearing from listeners – shoot your questions and suggestions over to

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