ESP 11.3 EPISODE 100! Part 3 of my chat with Seth Nelson about what really matters.

Summary

Here are some highlights of today’s conversation with Seth Nelson:

1:10 – when Seth got divorced, the law required one parent was named the primary residential, the other was secondary. In the end, it’s all about your ego, it’s just a label.

5:25 – On frequency of visits, it’s often better to have more visits for a shorter time, especially for younger kids.

7:25 – 95% of the time you have with your child is before they’re 18!

You can find Seth’s podcast at How To Split A Toaster – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405 and his website is https://nelsonkoster.com

Register now for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at bit.ly/tracysummit — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 11.2 Attorney Seth Nelson: Should you settle for 60/40?

Summary

This is part 2 of my 3-part conversation with Florida-based family law attorney Seth Nelson. Listen at 2:20 to hear Seth describe the  the 3 worlds in which he lives as a divorce attorney, at 5:25 to learn about the many categories that courts consider (Factors A, B, C….all the way to Factor T!) and 10:10 to hear his take on why 60/40 might be better for you, even if you’re getting the short end of the stick.

Seth’s podcast is How To Split A Toaster – you can find it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405

His website is https://nelsonkoster.com/

Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit at https://bit.ly/tracysummit

This is episode 99 of the Essential Stepmom podcast! In honour of reaching our 100th episode tomorrow, I’m hosting a contest! Give this podcast a review on Apple podcasts and win a chance for a free 60-minute coaching with me – alone, or with your partner! Just find us on Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/essential-stepmom-podcast/id1466706524, write a brief review, screenshot it and email it to me at info@essentialstepmom.com. Can’t wait to see yours there! — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 11.1 Divorce Attorney Seth Nelson

Summary

“Live your life, not your divorce!”

Seth’s podcast is called “How To Split A Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships”. Here’s a link to the show on Apple podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405

You can contact Seth’s office in Tampa, Florida via his website, https://nelsonkoster.com

Sign up for The Ultimate Stepmfamily Summit with my link to get my special registration bonus, access to over 50 of my stepmom video tutorials!

Click here: https://bit.ly/tracysummit

My gift is crafting ingenious parenting/custody/life strategies for the divorced dad. Contact me at info@essentialstepmom.com for more information about my comprehensive 6-month 1:1 Undeletable Dad coaching offer. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 11.1 Divorce Attorney Seth Nelson

Summary

“Live your life, not your divorce!”

Seth’s podcast is called “How To Split A Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships”. Here’s a link to the show on Apple podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405

You can contact Seth’s office in Tampa, Florida via his website, https://nelsonkoster.com

Sign up for The Ultimate Stepmfamily Summit with my link to get my special registration bonus, access to over 50 of my stepmom video tutorials!

Click here: https://bit.ly/tracysummit

My gift is crafting ingenious parenting/custody/life strategies for the divorced dad. Contact me at info@essentialstepmom.com for more information about my comprehensive 6-month 1:1 Undeletable Dad coaching offer. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 10.6 Anna De Acosta in conversation

Summary

Visit Anna’s website at https://annadeacosta.com.

The Ultimate Stepfamily Summit is happening from September 15-17. It’s FREE! Sign up now at bit.ly/tracysummit to get my special bonus offer of lifetime access to my library of over 50 Livestream stepmom tutorial videos! You’ll never be at a loss for something to listen to again! — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 10.3 Boundaries: The Bricks and Mortar Edition.

Summary

Want to know more about exactly how to make those boundaries you wish you had? Here are my top 5 tools for making better boundaries with your ex, your kids, even your spouse.

I love hearing from you – let me know what you think about this, or just reach out to me any time at info@essentialstepmom.com

If you’re a divorced dad wanting to rescue your relationship with your kids, or to learn how to parent in this upside-down family dynamic where the kids have way too much power, or to be ready to totally slay any attempt to reduce your custody or visitation, or to protect your personal finances from being shredded over the next 10-15 years, talk to me about my 6-month 1:1 coaching experience for dads. It’s a significant investment, but your ROI will be absolutely spectacular!  Set up a complimentary chat at bit.ly/CALLTRACY — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 9.5 Jeff Hoffman and Jack Rollins: Visible Man, the Discord Server

Summary

“People sign up – we don’t know who they are unless they tell us.”

Jeff Hoffman and Jack Rollins invite you to join their anonymous “Visible Man” Discord server with this link:
https://discord.gg/vf9NTJ9TPz

Men and women are welcome! Men will be subsequently enrolled in a private men-only room by voice verification.

If you’d like to experience coaching first-hand, schedule a free session with me any time by popping into my calendar and grabbing the open spot that suits your schedule:
bit.ly/CALLTRACY

I’ll set aside some time for you to help you untangle your big hairball of a situation. If you’d like to continue to work together after that, we can discuss how I can best serve your unique circumstances. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 9.3 The Archives of Essential Stepmom Podcast

Summary

Sorry for my podcast fail this week, but join me reading Amanda Ripley’s High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Here’s a link to order from Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/high-conflict-amanda-ripley/1137938562

If you’re ready to address your deepest stepmom anxieties, or get to work on overcoming that post-divorce “parenting paralysis” that seems to strike even the most professionally successful dad, give me a shout about working together 1:1. You can book a free call with me at bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Here are the episodes I suggested from our archives:

9.1 Expectations vs Agreements

8.1 The Teenage stepdaughter with Mary Kelly

7.5, 7.6 Up-leveling as a dad with Rich Bolus of The Dad Mindset podcast

6.5, 6.6 Trystan Reese author of How We Do Family

5.5  Kate Anthony – first wife forever syndrome

4.4 Me: How do you bond with a kid who wants nothing to do with you

3.10 Me: Evil Stepmom archetype

3.6 Me: Unbrainwashing your alienated child

2.9 Me: Disengaging for Beginners

1.1 Me: Overstepping — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 9.2 Q: “How do I merge the best parts of myself with my stepmom role?”

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This is an audio recording of a livestream on this topic from my Spectacular Stepmom facebook group. Not a member? Send a join request to THE SPECTACULAR STEPMOM

Interested in booking a free coaching call with me? Go to bit.ly/CALLTRACY — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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ESP 8.5 Jonnie Jensen: dad, stepdad, superdad

Summary

Please go check out Team Super Dad and get more Jonnie Jensen. I feel very much aligned with his mission and how he goes about empowering dads to make all the impact they want to have on their kids while having a great work-life balance and even a great bank balance!

Want to try my new “Day Of Voxer” coaching offer? It’s the newest thing! Go get Voxer from the App Store, and we can set up a day to work together – on and off- for the whole day! Shoot me an email at tracy@tracypoizner.com — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

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